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You'll find 59 dining etiquette "info'toons" in EATiQuette's The Main Course on Dining Etiquette

Here are some info'toons that appeared on our site following the publication of the book.

Please check back often as we'll occasionally be adding more.

As you might have guessed, the way that's shown above is not the proper way to hold a fork (or knife or spoon). Dagger-style, golf club and baseball bat grips are out. The correct way to hold a fork  is more like a pencil grip, with the tip of the  index finger resting near the end of the handle closest to the tines, the end of your thumb touching the "pad" of your index finger with the fork handle resting on your middle finger. A spoon is held the same way.

When using your fork and knife to cut meat or other foods, place the tip of your index finger (with your finger held straight) near the base of the handle on the back of the fork (so the tines are facing down). The handle of the fork is cradled in the palm of your hand with your thumb and middle finger grasping the sides of the handle. Use the same grip for the knife.

An old Tiffany's Table Manners for Teenagers tells the reader not to hold utensils "like a mashie niblick." We're not golfers, so we don't quite understand what they mean. But we'll take their word for it -- don't do it!

Women are allowed to wear hats while dining, even indoors, but this should be reserved for formal functions and afternoon teas. Women, too, should refrain from wearing baseball-style caps in the dining room.

We understand, from several sources on the internet, that the practice of men removing their hats is based in chivalry. Knights appeared quite menacing when fully suited in armor so, to indicate that they were a person's (especially a woman's) friend instead of a foe, they removed their helmets.

A couple of other hat-related anecdotes we came across...

From a letter to "Miss Manners": ...You may recall that when (football coach) Bear Bryant was asked why he didn't wear his trademark hat in the Astrodome, he replied that it was because his mother taught him that a gentleman doesn't wear a hat indoors.

On Jonathon Delacour's Web Log, he recounts an episode of The Sopranos in which Tony is offended that a fellow diner is wearing a baseball cap in an upscale restaurant. When the restaurant's owner won't take action, Tony takes it upon himself to "persuade" the young man to remove his hat.

It's polite behavior for a gentleman to remove his hat when he's indoors -- especially when dining. 

Yes, dining etiquette can vary slightly -- or drastically -- depending on the part of the world you're visiting.

But don't panic. You don't need to worry about embarrassing yourself or your hosts. If you're polite and respectful, you'll do fine. Ask questions about local dining customs and practices. People will appreciate your attempt to learn about their way of life. You can also learn a lot about the local dining customs by watching your host or hostess and following their cues.

A few very general rules to follow:

  • It's best to keep your hands above the table when dining. Some cultures find it threatening when your hands aren't out in the open.
  • Don't start eating until everyone is served. This seems to be an internationally-accepted practice.
  • Be cautious about the topics of conversation you initiate -- it's better to stay away from politics and religion unless you're knowledgeable about these subjects in the area you're visiting.
  • Watch your body language. The "okay", "thumbs up" and "beckoning with the forefinger" signs may have rude (or downright obscene) connotations in some places.
  • There are many international etiquette books that can give you the heads up before you travel. Check them out to learn about local customs. Etiquette can change not only in different parts of the world, but from one country (or region of a country) to another. 

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